The Question We Rarely Ask

When a family is dealing with neurodivergence, the conversation usually kicks off with the question: “How’s the kid doing?” It makes sense to start there, but it doesn’t tell the whole story.

What we don’t ask enough is how the parent, carer, or therapist is holding up. Are they getting enough sleep? Do they have emotional support? Are they quietly managing stress so others can keep going?

Not asking these questions unintentionally suggests that caregivers should just keep going forever. Over time, they start to believe it themselves. They keep going and doing their thing—until they can’t anymore.

Clarity encourages us to take a broader view. Care doesn’t happen in a vacuum. When caregivers are worn out, even the best care can suffer.

At The Clarity Catalyst, we push for a more inclusive question: How’s everyone in this system doing? Because when caregivers feel seen and supported, care becomes more stable, healthier, and more compassionate.